Saturday, July 4, 2009

[#1: How To Get A Guy To Notice You]

If you want to know how to make a guy fall in love with you, then this is not the article for you. This is for those who have noticed a guy and want him to notice her back (getting him to like you is a whole other story). Luckily, getting a guy to notice you is easier because it involves the use of basic social skills. You should be honest, direct, pleasant, and reasonable.

  1. Be sure that his attention is what you want. Don’t just try to get a guy to look your way, you want attention and you want to feel good about yourself. You don’t want to lead someone on like a puppy taken out for a walk. You could end up in a very awkward or uncomfortable situation–see the Warnings below.
  2. Be yourself. Everyone probably says this, but it’s true! No guy wants a girl to pretend she is something she’s not. As a general rule, guys don’t expect girls to change. Resist the temptation to put on a show or to do anything that just isn’t you just to get his attention.
  3. Get a new look. Don’t change who you are (you never want to do that because you’ll actually end up changing yourself) just try something different; if he doesn’t like you for who you are let him be. Try a new hairstyle, new clothes, etc. It’s a good idea to change things up once in a while, just because variety’s the spice of life, and it might help you catch his eye. Try being that girl who is different from all the other okay looking girls giving him the eyes, because beauty is common, but a good outlook and a great energy are very rare.
  4. Smile and make eye contact. Whether closed-mouth or open-mouth, do it. Unless it really makes you feel artificial, learn how to shoot people a reassuring smile, letting them know that you’re a happy and confident person who wants to enjoy life. The idea is to communicate that you’re inviting their company.
  5. Flirt. Do it as little or as much as you want, but remember that too much flirting (especially with other guys) will likely get him to take notice, but perhaps not in a good way. If he reacts and you don’t think its real (he’s just doing it because you’re there and you’re a girl and he thinks he can do better, let him know he can’t). If he is faking it, call his bluff and say something that makes him know you don’t think he is ‘all that’. For example, if he comes close, pull a face and offer him gum. This will unbalance his ego.
  6. Start up conversations that have to do with if it’s where you are or if he’s talking to you. Make sure you don’t go on about nothing. Definitely make sense when you talk to him. Don’t twirl your hair, flick your eyelashes or GIGGLE nonstop. He can get kind of scared and make fun of you, no matter how old you are, guys will always be the same. Be yourself! Just be who you are, thats the # 1 quality guys look for in a girl.
  7. Hang out with him often; you don’t always want to be hanging around because you might look like an annoying bug that’s always around and never goes away. Try to start a conversation about an interesting topic, for example if your at a football game ask confidently, but cutely “did i miss any action?”. This will tell him that you want to know about the game, but also you want to get his opinion so he will automatically talk to you about the game (or other topics) the whole game. Start slowly like a movie or party try not to make it so noticeable cause he might not be interested.
  8. Talk to him. Try to get to know him a little by discussing things you have in common. A good way to start a conversation is to ask him a question. Listen to him and don’t interrupt him when he is talking. You could even compliment him or ask for help. A good opener is spray two different perfumes on each wrist, then go up to him and ask him his favorite. This should get him to talk to you. Also be friendly to his friends to help him feel more comfortable around you. Some guys don’t notice girls unless they talk to the guy.
  9. Be assertive. You are the girl. You have the power. A lot of guys are shy and awkward around girls they like, so don’t hold back. Do what you want to do. Boys like a powerful girl. Be decisive. Tell him what you want him to do, etc.–just don’t get too bossy!
  10. Make him feel special. There’s got to be a reason that you want him to notice you, and that’s because you noticed him first. Let him know–subtly–that you’re interested in who he is, and that you sincerely want to get to know him better.
  11. Be brave. Stand up for who you are, and what you believe in. Ultimately, this will catch the attention and respect of someone who is going to work well for you, even if it turns out not to be this guy.
  12. Don’t be a slob! It’s a real turn-off for a guy when he notices a girl hasn’t brushed her hair or wears the same outfit every other day. Even if you don’t fall within the typical expectations, just looking presentable is always desirable–irrespective of who is the guy or girl.
  13. Just Talk To Him. When it comes down to it, talking to a guy, and flirting with him will get his attention, and if it doesn’t then nothing will.
  14. Walk in front of him. It may be very simple, but it works. When coming out of the class, or playing in gym class, just walk in front of him, and he should be able to notice you. If he walks in front of you a lot, he probably likes you.

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